a few words on marriage from the renowned marriage counselor, ben affleck

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sometimes, God uses the most interesting of people, places, or things to speak into our lives.  recently it was ben affleck, at the oscars, gold statuette in hand.  he spoke about his marriage during his acceptance speech and it just got me thinking about the true meaning of marriage.  and then i read this article.  good stuff.

yes, there are moments of fairytale bliss - birds chirping and swirling around, flowers in bloom, forest creatures singing, glitter and clouds, and such.  but then there are hard days.  hard weeks.  hard months.  hard years, even.  times that are trying.  seasons of sickness. poorer instead of richer.  when the “worse” part of those vows stares you in the face, knocks the wind out of you, and becomes real.  but i must say that i agree with mr. affleck, “it’s good. it is work, but it’s the best kind of work.” 

my God + my hubby + me  the three of us work at it together.  but it’s the best kind of work.

and in those moments of bliss make you understand that God is true to His promises.  and then you just let out a contented sigh as you bask in the blessings of God.  grateful that He has given you someone to walk with and talk with and cry with and laugh with in this life.  He is a good God.  He is a kind and sweet God.  and He has given me a husband who loves me deeply with the love of Christ and who really truly likes me.  we enjoy each other’s company and have so much fun together.  and as long as we keep walking with our Savior…that love grows truer, our life together is a blessing to others, and the work pays off.

knock knock

as their tagline says, knock knock puts the fun in functional.

this is my go to site for all my sassy office supply needs.  such personality.  since i spend much of my week working with my nose buried in projects and tasks, it is nice to open my desk drawer and find some silly supplies.

knock knock has just what you need to add some cheekiness to your workspace.

here are some of my favorites:

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head to their site and stock up on these fabulous goodies!

lord, beer me strength

oh, the office.

such a great show.  and, it is the perfect quote for my life right now.  i am in the middle of a crazy work event that i have been planning for months.  this event is essentially where all of the “characters” from my office are mixing and mingling with many “characters” (our high-roller, strategic partners) from around the country.  we have flown them all in for a swanky stay in scottsdale with first-class touches and way too much wine-ing and dining.  i mean, the dining is superb…but these folks take wine-ing to new level.  wow.

i feel like i have had tunnel vision for the past few weeks and i am going to be so relieved when it is over [sigh of relief].  if i can get through this day then i will be able to sit back, relax, and enjoy a nice little time at the resort with my hubby.  a much-deserved, mini vacation.  almost there…

eating humble pie

ben and i are pretty good at sticking to our menu and routine during the week.  we like a schedule, i suppose.  but, there are days when you just need to toss all of that planning aside and do something spontaneous.  people need a dash of spontaneity.

i have been entrenched in the planning of a major upcoming work event that rests on my shoulders.  there is much to do.  it is a lot of moving parts.  and has to be PERFECT.  now, while i love planning and organizing [any excuse to make spreadsheets and checklists and folders!], it can be exhausting and start to take its toll.  after weeks of being in the thick of it, i needed to come up for air.  plus, i have been ferociously fighting “placenta brain”.  please, dear sweet peanut, will you allow me just a few more weeks of clear thinking before you suck all of the blood flow from my brain? now is not exactly the time for me to be fuzzy and have thoughts just drop out of my head.

so, after some seriously intense days at work, hubby and i kinda threw our hands in the air and said, “enough!  we need some pizza!”  and so, we took a trip to our go-to pizza place, humble pie.

just what we needed in every way.  chopped salad.  pizza with crispy, chewy crust.  and even a pizza cookie for dessert!  we really lived it up.  and somewhere between our appetizer and the last bite of ooey-gooey cookie goodness…our minds and spirits were renewed.  while the pizza is close to magical, i don’t think that’s what did the trick.  i am thinking that our al fresco conversation is what refreshed us.  we talked about our interactions with people, our work, our witness.  and very quickly, my attitude of “poor me…i work so hard…does anybody notice…do i matter…i do the work of three people…if i want it done right, i have to do it myself, other people just wreck stuff…yada, yada, yada…” shifted.  my outlook changed.  my heartset was altered.  we started talking about humility.  about doing all we do for the glory of God.  about working as unto God and not man.  about being the least of these that God may exalt me in due time.  about serving others.  about pouring into others.  about reflecting the love of Christ in EVERYTHING.  and soon, that humble pie that i was eating was really making a difference.  it was that renewal that i needed – that i need constantly. the Christian life is a lifelong pursuit of holiness.  a journey.  a walk.  a pattern of exhibiting more and more of Christ and less and less of me.  humility. 

i guess that sometimes God’s rich lessons are served in a pizza box.

lunch

i am a pack my lunch and eat at my desk kinda gal.  i tend to pack many mini-meals so that i can munch every three hours.  so although i think a one hour lunch is built into my day [i don't really know, we are pretty loosey-goosey around my office] i never really take advantage of it [i suppose that means i am working too much? hmmm...].  but every so often, i book a little lunch date with a friend or family member.  these are such treats for me!  and, when the “non-lunch-out” gal does venture out mid-day, everyone i work with tells me “take as long as you’d like…you have yourself some fun…enjoy yourself…take your time!”  this means that my rare lunch outings are much more laid-back and enjoyable than the average workweek lunch.  i can pick a good restaurant.  i don’t have to grab a table and rush the order.  i can sit and gab long after the plates have been cleared.  this, my friends, is how lunch should be.

i was recently able to once again enjoy one of these nice little lunches with my pal hallie [seen here and here].  we met up at pei wei and shared two plates of noodle-y and mongolian goodness while discussing life and all that jazz.  such a fun time.

bowl-o-rama

last friday, hubby and i participated in my office bowling date night.  i come from a family of pretty darn good bowlers.  and i have been known to have a good game or two.  but ben is not a super big fan of bowling.  and, he doesn’t really allow himself to get too worked up and competitive, he is pretty mellow which serves as a lovely compliment to my crazy.  anyway, we ventured out to spend three hours at cosmic bowling with all the characters [and their spouses] from my workplace.  they are a wild bunch.  and very competitive.

to be honest, it was not my best showing.  but, we did have fun watching everyone compete and laugh and joke.  there were even a couple of turkeys in the bunch! [look it up, people].

i think that hubby might be all bowled-out for the year.  but, i’m sure that if we added a touch of class to the whole friday night bowling thing…i might be able to persuade him.  i’m thinking that the next time we go bowling, we should go with our families, enjoy a nice dinner, and hit the lucky strike. i’m game.